The beauty of "spacing" children many years apart lies in the fact that parents have time to learn the mistakes that were made with the older ones - which permits them to make exactly the opposite mistakes with the younger ones. ~Sydney J. Harris
Oh how true that is at my house!
With Grace, I was very aware of every thing I did --- sleep training, timed feedings, perfectly bundled as soon as the slightest breeze came in the fall.
Poor Will is lucky if I remember his hat AND his coat; normally he gets whatever is in the diaper bag from the last trip out of the house. Cause you know I never remember to restock the diaper bag!
Now, at 6 months old (can you believe he is 6 months old already!?), I am seeing the opposite traits from Grace. Could it be because of the stark differences in how I managed them as newborns?!
Will was held all the time as a newborn - Grace was held a lot but I was very conscious of wanting to make sure we put her down so that she could learn to hang by herself without being in our arms 24/7. She loved to play by herself on the floor. Will lasts all of 5 minutes, if we are lucky.
Grace had all new coordinating outfits; seriously I could have dressed her in a totally new outfit every single day and never repeat the clothes. Will spends 95% of his time in hand me downs from friends; the things I do by him are cause I have a great coupon or I found them at the baby consignment store.
Grace struggles with frustaration - when things dont go right the very first time she loses it and gives up. But I liked to fix everything for her as a baby right away; did I teach that to her? With Will, I wait for him to try to work it out --- roll the other way to get to the pacifer, hold his bottle with a little help from a toy propping it up so he can figure out how the bottle thing works. Later in life, will he be better equipped to get through things that are a little hard?
Guess we will have to wait and see.
But either way, my kids are awesome just the way they are.