Her first real bad report card. Not fun. Not fun for me and Hubby or DayCareista or Grace. And now I have a ton of work to do with Miss Diva herself.
Afghani pulled me aside yesterday afternoon at pickup time to discuss Grace's behavior. Apparently, she is kicking and pushing and hitting her friends. Once in awhile, she gets a bite or scratch in there too. A parent of another child mentioned to Afgahni (and I am quoting her!), "What are you going to do about Grace?". From what I understand, Grace scratched this little girl last week (the same girl who bit my daughter twice a few months ago, leaving bruises on Grace's arm, by the way). I was (and still am) totally mortified to run into this mother at day care! Afghani said another parent (the mother of Grace's best friend at day care) walked in during the conversation and agreed with the other mother about the hitting and pushing.
Afghani asked me how we handle it at home (we do the Naughty Step). There is no time-out at day care, per Afghani's policy. Afghani corrects her and distracts her when she hits. Hitting and pushing is not only in response to the sharing problems of all 2 year olds, but intentional most of the time. Seriously...Afghani said Grace will stand next to her friends, smile, push them, and walk away. As soon as she is corrected, she gives that sweet little innocent look and says sorry.
Bottom line: She is the mean kid at day care right now and I am mortified.
Afghani wants to try discipline techniques we havent used before with Grace (taking away her favorite toy temporarily, telling her she has to play alone when she is hitting, distraction to a completely different activity) and to do away with time-outs at home. Maybe there is something going on with Grace that we havent noticed (can a 2 year old be stressed or upset or any of that!?). My diagnosis is that she is having issues with not being the center of attention all the time. At home, she hits and all this when we are not paying absolute attention to her (we are cooking dinner and she is in the room but not the center of our conversation, etc). Its a bigger problem when we are not at our house and there are other kids/dogs/people/who and what ever around that she has to share attention with. Could it be as simple as that?!
What the heck has gotten into my sweet little girl!? What would I say to these moms next time I see them? Do I mention it or let it lay and deal only with Afghani when it comes to this issue? Should I expose her to times when I know she will do these things so I can correct her immediately? Should I not allow her to play with other kids for awhile until I can figure out what is going on?
I always thought I was on top of this parenting thing---that I was doing a decent job. But now, when my daughter is having a problem, I am clueless on how to fix this!! HELP!