Someone close to me recently said "It's totally amazing how such a small thing can change your whole life". I couldn't agree more.
You see, my life no longer revolves around me. Stopping by the nail salon to have a manicure after work is no longer an option unless I call to arrange for someone else to pick up the baby from daycare and give her dinner and her bath. Friday nights are spent on the couch folding laundry while the husband and I get parenting tips from SuperNanny (yes, I am admitting that!). And the 11 pm news---never see it 'cause we are usually asleep LONG before the news starts. Right now, my co-workers are in Hawaii at a meeting and I dont mind that I am stuck in VA; I would rather be here where I can see my family every night after a long day at work.
On the flip side of that topic, another friend of mine refers to herself as the "Anti-Mom". I will quote her (hope you don't mind, B!): I’m the anti-mom....I refuse to dress Squeaker in anything I wouldn’t wear (within reason). Which means: no cartoon characters, no silly over-the-top baby things. I hate having every room of my home be “babyfied”. I hated carrying a diaper bag... Don’t get me wrong - I LOVE BEING A MOM. But I totally disagree that being a mom means I should like Vera Bradley bags, wear sweatpants in public, dress my child in stupid clothes. I’m totally devoted to my sweet pea....."
I think I am in the middle of this one. While I dont want to carry a diaper bag with baby animals all over it or ever put a bumper sticker on my car proclaiming that my kid is not dumb, I also want everyone I meet to know that I am a mom and that my daughter is fantastic and adorable and funny and growing up too fast. Its almost like if someone doesnt know that I am a working mom with 2 jobs (one fulltime and one parttime at home) and a great husband and the prefect toddler, than they arent really seeing me. Isnt that ridiculous!?
There is more to me than just being a mom---I am a successful event planner, I have a great marriage, and there are times that I am actually pretty funny too (only after a few martinis but it still counts, right?).
So I am learning that it is okay to go out by myself without proclaiming to everyone that I meet along the way how fantastic it is being a mom. I am learning that while being a mom is the most important job I have, there is more of me for people to see. Some people will see Mom and to them, I will show all the pictures in my purse and tell them the funniest new adventure with Grace. To others, I am an event planner. in charge of making their wedding day perfect. With them, I will debate the pros and cons of buttercream frosting vs. fondant and whether or not an aisle runner is needed during the ceremony.
So yes, it is amazing how such a small thing changes your life. Yet somehow, I feel more like me than ever before.